I found this very amusing and fairly accurate post about Chinese dating culture which should be of particular interest to westerners who are currently enjoying the life of Reilly here in China.
Consequently, no matter how average or even well below-average a Western man may be, he can very easily find a relatively pretty girl (by Western standards) to fall in love with him. As one impoverished 24-year old Chinese girl, who was aggressively courting a foreign teacher twice her age, reported: “My mother told me that a poor foreigner is always better than a rich Chinese.”
I do have quite a bit of experience in this area so I can say with authority that a lot of it does seem to ring true even if it doesn’t seem like it. For instance, I’ve certainly come across the girls who assume you’re locked in for wedlock after sleeping together. And I’ve also met the party girl types who just want a good time but have very high standards and certainly a 40-something guy with average looks will not come up on their radar.
These women are in fact interested in casual dating and sex without strings but, and this is a big “but,” they will generally apply the same criteria in mate selection employed by women in our respective Western countries. Such that they are only looking for a “good time,” they are going to seek relatively young men who would be regarded as handsome and very desirable anywhere in the world.
And it was just the other day that a friend of mine was waxing lyrical about the untapped 30 plus segment of married or divorced women who are also happy just to have some casual fun while their husbands play around in KTVs and massage parlours.
Examples of such women include, but are not limited to: former prostitutes and aging karaoke (KTV) girls; divorced women with school-aged children; women with a history of having dated and lived with other foreign men; those regarded as unattractive or “too old” by Chinese standards, and, as alluded to above; terribly bored middle-aged women married to men who are away on business trips for days at a time, especially if the women suspect infidelity.
These are of course broad generalisations, and I think the author does a good job to make this very clear, but with that in mind, this is in my opinion quite a well researched piece.