Guide To Dating Chinese Girls

I found this very amusing and fairly accurate post about Chinese dating culture which should be of particular interest to westerners who are currently enjoying the life of Reilly here in China.

Consequently, no matter how average or even well below-average a Western man may be, he can very easily find a relatively pretty girl (by Western standards) to fall in love with him. As one impoverished 24-year old Chinese girl, who was aggressively courting a foreign teacher twice her age, reported: “My mother told me that a poor foreigner is always better than a rich Chinese.”

I do have quite a bit of experience in this area so I can say with authority that a lot of it does seem to ring true even if it doesn’t seem like it. For instance, I’ve certainly come across the girls who assume you’re locked in for wedlock after sleeping together. And I’ve also met the party girl types who just want a good time but have very high standards and certainly a 40-something guy with average looks will not come up on their radar.

These women are in fact interested in casual dating and sex without strings but, and this is a big “but,” they will generally apply the same criteria in mate selection employed by women in our respective Western countries. Such that they are only looking for a “good time,” they are going to seek relatively young men who would be regarded as handsome and very desirable anywhere in the world.

And it was just the other day that a friend of mine was waxing lyrical about the untapped 30 plus segment of married or divorced women who are also happy just to have some casual fun while their husbands play around in KTVs and massage parlours.

Examples of such women include, but are not limited to: former prostitutes and aging karaoke (KTV) girls; divorced women with school-aged children; women with a history of having dated and lived with other foreign men; those regarded as unattractive or “too old” by Chinese standards, and, as alluded to above; terribly bored middle-aged women married to men who are away on business trips for days at a time, especially if the women suspect infidelity.

These are of course broad generalisations, and I think the author does a good job to make this very clear, but with that in mind, this is in my opinion quite a well researched piece.

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39 Responses to Guide To Dating Chinese Girls

  1. Dingle says:

    Which one of these groups do you prefer to tap into mr woai, if that is indeed your real name!

  2. WoAi says:

    I’m a big fan of the untapped over 50 ayi segment. As was a mutual friend of ours with the same name as yourself!

  3. T. says:

    What about those of us who date our dSLRs, carbon fiber bikes and DVD collections?

  4. Rich says:

    Agreed, Woai, the benefits of a woman who can cook and clean are not to be sniffed at.

  5. WoAi says:

    @T – Whatever floats your boat mate!

    @Rich – Yes, as the saying goes, why buy the cow, when you can buy the cow’s mother!

  6. Rich says:

    “My mother told me that a poor foreigner is always better than a rich Chinese.”

    So where does that leave us poor, foriegn Chinese?

  7. IC says:

    In dating world, irrational confidence is the key. Black guys do pretty good in USA since they often display incredible ego. Humblness is disaster for dating. However, Chinese have very long civilization, which means long domestication of human beings. As domesticated animal, your mating is arranged and your courting skill is retarded.

    Wild animal or hunter-gathters are good at natural ability.

  8. Sue says:

    Nah, i disagree. I rather be a stinking rich first wife shopping at Rodeo with my chauffeur driven rolls, knowing my wealthy husband is screwing someone else than home alone with the love of my life with only water to drink. There’s a chinese saying, that when you have love, you can be full by drinking water alone. Well that is for teenagers or women with half a brain. LOL. As long as my wealthy husband shares his wealth with me, I don’t think I will be alone much of the time anyways! I’ll be busy being a philanthropist and jet setting around the world!

  9. Bittermelon says:

    I think Tiger Wood’s wife shares your philosophy, Sue.

  10. Rich says:

    Sue – true words of wisdom, lol.

  11. T. says:

    How do I date Chinese girls? I just tell them I write this blog. It’s called “WoAiZhongGuo” – you can find it at

  12. CP says:

    @T: Too late. Some say that all the hot girls in China have already been seduced by the legendary WoAi (or was it that they were just desperate to get face time with Tommy in his mansion, I can’t remember).

  13. sue says:

    @ Bittermelon – You mean EX wife! LOL for 100 million i’ll leave too!

  14. Stimpy says:

    Sue- what a cynical point of view, if money is all you care about. You better be hot, because you are essential pimping yourself out.

  15. You’ve probably heard about this already, but apparently this Peter Coffin guy just needed to come to Asia. He seems to have fabricated a ‘Japanese’ girlfriend (using stolen photos of an unknown Korean model), and had an online relationship with himself. He tried to insult an Asian model on the internet, backed up by his ‘girlfriend’, and the model totally slammed him via blog post. He’s since been denying that he made up the relationship, in all sorts of embarrassing ways. It’s pretty hilarious, but also awful.

    Here’s the Reddit page with recent updates:, and the original blog post:

  16. Miss Jane says:

    I’d like to buy a vowel with that! What is this world coming to? But honestly, i don’t think this is only in China. In Japan or Korea it could be just as bad!

  17. Sue says:

    If money is all i cared about, i would have left my husband long time ago. All i said was I RATHER be rich with a cheating husband than a poor one. Besides, there’s no guarantee a poor man won’t cheat either! You don’t need money to cheat. So how is that view cynical? AND, whether i’m hot is really in eyes of the beholder. I’ve seen some really ugly bitches with not so bad boyfriends/husbands and vice versa, so therefore, looks really don’t matter, right? They say love is blind LOL. So just to let you know, my husband is partially blind. hahhaha.

  18. Stimpy says:

    Sue- “I rather be a stinking rich first wife shopping at Rodeo with my chauffeur driven rolls, knowing my wealthy husband is screwing someone else than home alone with the love of my life with only water to drink.”

    That’s what you said. You’d rather be rich in a loveless marriage than poor in a loving marriage.

  19. Stimpy says:

    Sue- is your husband rich?

  20. WoAi says:

    @Rich – I think it leaves us up the creek without the proverbial paddle!

    IC – Some girls go for the confident guy but I can tell you from personal experience, some like the shy, awkward type. (I’m not shy or awkward, but I have pretended to be on occasion!) Think Hugh Grant or Colin Firth vs say, Jason Stratham. It’s a matter of taste.

    @Sue – I like your attitude, and I think Hugh Hefner’s new fiancee will agree with you too!

    @Bittermelon – Tiger Woods doesn’t have a wife.

    @T – Now that doesn’t usually work. I usually tell them I write the YouUsedToBeAlright blog and I know Yao Ming. Guaranteed leg opener!

    @CP – Ah yes, I have used Tommy to get myself laid. That works better than the blog thing!

    @Stimpy – Yes, Sue is one hot cougar!

    @Miss Jane – Buy a vowel?

  21. Sue says:

    stimpy – oh all right, if you put it that way! Yeah i would! and yes my honey is rich, rich in love.

    woai – I AM NOT A COUGAR! but i wish i was =P My idol is Samantha Jones hahahha.

  22. Stimpy says:

    Sue- I guess my point is if your husband isn’t rich, why did you marry him? And why haven’t you left him.

    Clearly you don’t really agree with your own opinions.

  23. Sue says:

    Stimpy – cos i had half a brain 19 yrs ago? Anymore questions? Cos i’m begining to get a weird feeling that ur interested in me. Oh please tell me ur rich. Oh n if ur hot too that would be a bonus. Please post a pic cheers!

  24. WoAi says:

    @Sue – ALL my blog readers are hot. We have high standards. And I think Samantha has a few years on you, so time is on your side.

  25. T. says:

    @WoAi – noting the quantity of photos of WoAi and hot girls on his blog and the lack of quantity of photos of me and hot girls on my blog, I believe your strategy works better. Either that or I should try George Costanza’s: “Hello, my name is George, I’m unemployed and I live with my parents”

  26. WoAi says:

    @T – That just proves that you are discreet and I’m a show off. I mean yes, you don’t have many pictures of hot girls on your site, but you don’t even put photos of yourself on your blog, but I am pretty sure you do exist!

  27. anthony says:

    its too short ! – you need to write a book !

    Wo Ai’s guide to dating chinese girls … lol

    can I pre-order ? lol

  28. Rich says:

    @Stimpy – lighten up, man! Jeez.

  29. Sue says:

    Waoi – Oi, she turned 50 in satc2 so i have a bit more than a few years darling.

    rich – your my hero!

    TGIF! Have a great weekend guys!

  30. Rich says:

    @sue – anytime, hun. I’m always available to come to the assistance of hot Californian gals. Or bored housewives of rich, promiscuous husbands.

    Disclaimer – the views expressed here are not necessarily those of the author and any similarity in the characters portrayed herein are purely coincidental.

  31. Sue says:

    Rich babe, you sound like lotsa fun! (do i know you? lol) Hey if ya ever come over to cali, remember to give me a holla. I might not be the hot cal girl or the bored housewife that you’ve disclaimed, but I still know how to have a good time ya hear? ;P

  32. Rich says:

    Fo real? I hear ya sista, gonna holla atcha fo real when I get state side. Aiiiiiight?

  33. Rick1 says:

    @Anthony: There’s already a book here:

    Don’t know if it talks about KTV girls though. I had some live next door to me, they were a pain in the ass. There where about 8 of them living in one apartment and they complained I was too noisy! Never mind their bad singing at 3am, it was little old me that was apparently too noisy!

    I feel sorry for anyone who marries a KTV girl by accident, I really do.

  34. Nice post here.. somewhat good tips of how to date Chinese girls.

  35. T. says:

    @WoAi – your spam filter didn’t pick up “Micheal Cheung” and his date-asia website!

  36. WoAi says:

    @T – That’s not spam – he really likes my post on dating Chinese girls! Actually I thought it was the American tennis player.

  37. T. says:

    @WoAi – he likes them . . . somewhat

  38. Eddie :D says:

    Thanks for posting this!!! I’m leaving the US (california) for China to teach english and as I am single, this cleared up things. Thank you :D

  39. Joseph Ngunga says:

    Won xihuan zhong guo ren

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